Rediscover your Self.
Reclaim your wholeness.
Cultivating your Self after years, decades, or even a lifetime of self-sacrificing and people-pleasing is some of the most important work you can do.
I’m so glad you’re here.
– Rachael
Self-Sacrifice:
Ignoring your own feelings and desires. Not taking your own wants or needs seriously enough to act on them. Choosing to take care of other people emotionally, instead of taking care of your Self.
People-Pleasing:
Constantly focusing on meeting other people’s needs in your daily life at the expense of your own gratification. Behaving in ways that are designed to keep other people happy.
Why do you people-please and self-sacrifice?
Are you a self-sacrificing people-pleaser? Consider the following statistics.
- Women who identify as people-pleasers: 56%
- Americans of all genders who identify as people-pleasers: 49%
- Women who go to great lengths to avoid confllict: 70%
- Women who say they put others needs first, at the expense of their own: 68%
- Americans who feel they can’t say “no” when someone asks them for something: 52%
- Women who feel responsible for how other people feel: 46%
How do you stop people-pleasing and self-sacrificing?
Remind yourself that you’re someone who deserves the same love and care as you offer to others.
Get your perfectionism in check.
Come to an understanding of where this pattern started. Heal your relationship trauma.
Develop healthy communication skills.
Cultivate self-awareness and self-compassion.
Discover the four key inner archetypes of people-pleasing self-sacrificers.
Understand the patriarchal and societal forces that have contributed to this phenomenon.
Learn how to take good care of yourself and your sensitivity.
Explore the feelings that keep you stuck in this pattern.
Get support. This is a pervasive, cultural phenomenon, and doing it alone can be challenging.
